The Commitment to Love-Part 1

I will love you but did you take the trash out? For about 2 weeks, I have thought about this topic. The commitment to love is a sensitive topic and I pray that I tackle it in its totality.
Recently I received an email and it was a funny piece which I found out later that it holds some water when I inquired. The article was titled, “Make women happy’ and the first sentence read, ‘in the world of romance, one single rule applies to men: Make Women happy’. Well some of the subsequent paragraphs were;
HER BIRTHDAYYou forget her birthday (-50000)
You take her out to dinner (0)
You take her out to dinner and it’s not a sports bar (+1)
Okay, it’s a sports bar (-2)
And it’s all-you-can-eat night (-3)
It’s a sports bar, it’s all-you-can-eat night, and your face is painted the
colours of your favourite team (-10)

A NIGHT OUT
You take her to a movie (+2)
You take her to a movie she likes (+4)
You take her to a movie you hate (+6)
You take her to a movie you like (-2)
It’s called ‘DeathCop’ (-3)
You lied and said it was a foreign film about orphans (-15)

COMMUNICATION
When she wants to talk about a problem , you listen, displaying what looks
like a concerned __expression (0)
You listen, for over 30 minutes (+50)
You listen for more than 30 minutes without looking at the TV (+500)
She realizes this is because you have fallen asleep (-10000)

You can view this from any angle and make any conclusion but the central part of the email is selfishness. It is all about me, me, and me. It is all about do this to me, treat me this way, you can’t enjoy unless I enjoy and when I do so then that is it. I have stated before and this is still my belief that the number one reason why relationships fail and sometimes they are like hell on earth is because of selfishness not communication as many assert. This selfishness is what I also call a lack of commitment to love. The commitment to love is not based on what you did for me last summer or how he chickened out when you expected him to be your knight in shinning armor.
Love qualifies the actions and not vice versa. Out of my love for my mate, I act and treat her in a particular way but not for me to act a certain way to be loved otherwise it would be like attaining salvation by works. When folks begin to consider the other fellow better than themselves, not only will we have successful relationships but fruitful models for those who are not yet relating. Sometimes I see fights in relationships and I ask, myself whether the latter glory is better than the former (hope you understand). Well he didn’t call me! He didn’t take me out! And so on… I usually ask, why don’t you call him/her? I get all sorts of answers.
TO BE CONTINUED